On the shelf above you can see all of my unread print books, add to that four unread ebooks and four audiobooks and you have my complete TBR pile.
Years ago I had all in all around 150-200 unread books at home (print + ebook), books stayed on my TBR pile for months or even years. Sometimes, more often than I liked, I lost interest in the books because they had been on my shelf for such a long time. One day I finally had enough of it.
I decided to work on making my TBR smaller, more manageable. My goal was to be able to read a new book within a few weeks after getting it.
I was damn happy when I reached 60 books, then 40 and now I'm finally under 20. For me this is a perfect number. I no longer need tons of unread books in my life, no longer want them. I stopped feeling anxious about not having anything to read at home long ago.
I love that I can and will read a new book, every new book, within a few weeks after I got it, I'm reading books shortly after I bought them and that's what works best for me.
My small TBR pile might not be something for every reader and that's ok, because it's my TBR pile and it only needs to work for me. In the end it's all about finding out what works for you and going after what makes you happy.
I'm happy with my TBR pile, very happy, and hope that the same is true for you.