We don't have to like the same books

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Lately I have been thinking a lot about readers, different tastes in books and how some readers can't accept that their own opinion about a book might not be shared by all readers. As you all know I'm generally a happy person and try not to get too worked up about things. Because anger and frustration never change anything. But lately I have been annoyed by a certain attitude some readers are showing. You can be sure that I don't follow any blogs by people who think that their opinion is more worthy than that of other readers, but be it on twitter or on facebook sometimes you hear and read things that make you angry.

Books like the ones from the "Twilight" series or from the "Fifty Shades of Grey" series have a special kind of power, and I'm not talking about their amazing selling numbers. I'm talking about what they do to readers who didn't enjoy the books, or even the thought of them. I liked both series and I have no trouble with saying so aloud. But of course I don't like every book I'm reading. Some of the books I read in 2012 have made me shake my head and made me wonder, for a very short time, how the hell other readers can enjoy them. We all have thoughts like that, they are normal and there's nothing wrong about them. But once I get over these thoughts, I'm always hoping that other readers, readers with different tastes in books, will enjoy the books that frustrated me.

Having different tastes in books and of course in all things in life is something we should appreciate and celebrate because it make our lifes so much more interesting. Just imagine how boring life would be if all readers enjoyed exactly the same kind of books.
Some readers don't seem to get that. They read a book and strongly dislike it. They rant about it. So far, so good. But then they start making fun of the readers who enjoyed the book they didn't like, then they make it sound as if only idiots could enjoy the book, then they try to make the other readers feel ashamed or guilty because they dared to enjoy the book. And that's the point where my anger level rises. That's the point when I stop following the person, their blog, etc. . Because while I love reading blogs with critical reviews, I have never been a friend of bookish snobbery in any form.

Some of the blogs I read feature regularly very positive reviews of books I didn't enjoy or would never read. And I love that. I love reading thoughts of other people on books that didn't work for me or that are from a genre I don't read or enjoy. Because I think it's important to keep your eyes open to what is going on outside of the genres you read, and it's important to remind yourself that your own opinion is not the only one that is important, and that contrary opinions on books are important and should be appreciated.

So dear fellow readers, we don't have to like the same books, but we still can be bookish friends. A little respect here and there for the opinions of other readers makes everything so much easier and so much more enjoyable.

Let's be happy that there are all kinds of books and all kinds of readers.


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16 comments:

  1. I agree completely. We don't have to be Team A or Team B. I can't tell you how many times I come across people who openly hate both series you mentioned and thought why they feel the need to not just say their opinion (which they of course have a right to), but to belittle or think badly of anybody who in their mind is stupid enough to enjoy "this particular book" and make it so sucusseful. I've also come across blog or tumblr posts by authors, which just makes them look jealous, even if that might not be the case. I just don't like the idea of someone having to watch what they love, just because some people might not agree and bombard them with rude comments. A world where everybody loves and hates the same thing would be boring. Variety makes things interesting and not just when it comes to books.

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    1. Exactly! Everyone should enjoy the books they want to without feeling guilty, or without fearing that other readers will belittle them. Variety is something we all should be happy about.

      So far I have seen one very negative and belittling author post on the Fifty Shades books and its readers and it annoyed me. I enjoyed the books by the author in the past and will read more by her in the future, but now there's always this little negative feeling in the back of my mind.

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  2. Great post! It annoys me when people who loved a book I didn't like make me feel guilty for not liking it, but I've never really considered it from the other side. Thanks for an interesting discussion!

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    1. What you described is just as annoying. Of course I also always hope that other readers will enjoy a book I liked, but I also know that not every reader is the same.

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  3. the fact that not everyone enjoys a book to the same degree is what makes discussing it fun... to receive everyone's point of view!!!

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    1. Exactly, bookish discussions are always a great thing. It makes book blogging so much fun.

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  4. Great post Sabrina, and I have to add, it does hurt to see a book you really enjoyed get slaughtered by some other reviewer. And something I really cannot understand, is when a person starts in the middle of a series and then doesn't enjoy the book, because she did not get everything. Duh, most often you really should start with the first book in a series for the most enjoyment.

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    1. It does hurt, especially when you really love a book.
      I sometimes start a series in the middle, but then I'm always were careful with how to rate the book. Because I know exactly, that I'm probably missing some things from the books before.

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  5. I agree with you Sabrina. I too have stopped following blogs and some authors when they have bad-mouthed books and other authors and the readers of the books they are making fun of. It takes all kinds of tastes and people to make the world go round and things would be very boring if we were all alike. Of course we can dislike some books ,that is going to happen from time to time but it will never be acceptable to me for authors and bloggers etc to slam those who do enjoy certain books. Great topic Sabrina!!

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    1. That's exactly what I'm feeling and thinking about this. I have also stopped following readers, bloggers and authors because of the behaviour I described above. I'm not interested in surrounding myself with people who belittle others.

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  6. totally agree . I love reading good and bad reviews of books. Even those bad one might sell me to read a book. I agree with different reading tastes we are all not going to like the same books

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    1. So true, and there's nothing bad about liking a book that another reader dislikes.

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  7. I am totally agreeing with you! I think we talked a lot about this topic already. It's the same for me: I also have a problem when people who dislike a certain book try to make you feel bad for it. When I made that post about the Fifty Shades books in which I said that I had a problem with the people over Twitter who not only made fun of the books but also of the reader who like them...well there were some comments to that post where I was a bit speechless because there are readers who really try to make you wanna feel bad for even want to read these books...*shakeshead* It is so good that we have different tastes so there are so many more opinions and so much more to talk about!

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    1. I hate that kind of behaviour. And those people are often super sensitive when it's about their own taste in books. I'm staying away from such readers, makes my life easier and happier. :)

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